Ok. Does this dialogue sound familiar to you?
Brother (to Sister): Can I have some of your candy?
Brother: Aw, c’mon! Can I have some of your candy?
Brother: But you have to share! Daddy!
Brother: Daddy, can you tell her she has to share her candy with me?
Daddy: Why does she have to share her candy with you?
Brother: Because I want some.
So, what do you do here? Do you, as all-powerful Parent, make an executive decision to try to keep the peace by taking the candy from Sister and divide it equally with Brother so they both have the same amount of candy? Do you tell Sister to give some candy to Brother and tell her that “sharing is good” and insist that she does it? Do you tell Brother to quit pestering his sister? Do you give up with all the shouting and bickering for something so little and take the candy away and eat it yourself…then neither one has candy?
The Sharing Principle
I learned something about Sharing a long time ago that has stuck with me all these years: In order to learn how to share, you first have to own it. The idea made sense to me…because how could you truly share something that you didn’t own yourself? If someone took something from you and gave it to someone else…did you share it? Could you go to a neighbor’s home and take something and call it “sharing”? In a world I used to know, that was called “stealing”. Sharing is willingly giving what you have (and what you own) to someone else.
Unfortunately, today’s world has tried to redefine “sharing” with the word “redistribution”…and it’s a forced, unseen and unnoticed, form where things aren’t necessarily taken directly from you. Rather, they’re taken indirectly…imperceptibly. It’s the equivalent of having the parent take the candy from one child and splitting it with another in an effort to equalize everything between everyone. Unfortunately, this just focuses on the results of equality. Such efforts of equality and redistribution require Force and Power to execute. This removes a person’s chance to choose for himself whether or not to share…because the decision has already been made: “You WILL ‘share’….whether or not you like it.” The person never really did the action of sharing; someone else made sure the results of distribution happened. The executing authority just used the “moral cover” of sharing as an excuse to justify his action (power-trip).
The Keys to Sharing
So, in order to properly Share, you need at least two keys: Ownership (or as some would say, private property) and Willfulness. In short, you’ve gotta own it first if you’re gonna be able to give it. If I take it from you, then that means I own it and you don’t; you’re just a Holder…not an Owner. But if I leave it in your hands to do as you please, then you own it. Then, you have to be allowed to make the choice yourself to give freely of what is yours. I can’t take it from you…no matter how “morally right” sharing is. You have to give it yourself…willingly, without any reverse psychology or any other kind of mental/emotional/logical manipulating on my end. How could you truly share if I manipulated you into giving it to someone? (Unfortunately, our society is adept at this manipulation. Be wary of this.)
Sharing…With Your Heart In It
Give what is yours…not anyone else’s. This is one of the reasons why private property is important. You’re able to give when you own something. If everyone owned everything…would anyone ever know how to share? No, because what you think is yours isn’t really yours. It’s nobody’s…and it’s everybody’s. So you can take and take and take from others….and people can take and take and take from you.
Give…because you want to…not because you have to. All too often, society and governments take from us…and use the “moral cover” of “helping the needy and the poor and the children” as their reason for doing so…all without our explicit consent, and with much PR to try to convince us that taking from us is really okay…and that we’re really giving to help all these poor folks. Again…give because you want to…not because you have to….not because you’re obliged to…not because you’ve been “guilted” into doing so.
You choose to give. With no expectation of anything in return. Period. And your action of sharing will count as righteousness unto you.
Back to the Story…
So what happened with the candy event with Brother and Sister? Well, Daddy told Sister it was up to her whether or not she’d like to give some to Brother. It’s good to share, but she could choose whether or not to give some. Daddy told Brother that no matter how much he wanted her candy…it was hers. Just because he wanted some didn’t mean he was gonna get some…and he wasn’t going to use Daddy to take it from her either. If she didn’t want to give some to him, it’s too bad. Maybe next time. And the rest was up to them. Sister went upstairs. Brother, dejected, did too. Not too long after, Sister approached Daddy and told him that she gave some candy to Brother.
She shared. Daddy hugged her.
And that’s good.