“Do you trust me?”
Four simple words. One very big question mark! Because it implies that Trust is lacking or isn’t established somewhere in the relationship in question.
When Trust exists, you don’t have to ask it of someone. It’s there. You’re open with them. They welcome you. You welcome them. There’s no hesitation because you have their full support and they have yours. There’s no clamoring for attention because you both willingly and readily listen and pay attention. There’s no hunger for power, influence, or position because it’s not important.
But that’s just what you see on the outside. Those are the “actions” of Trust-able People. There’s more to trust than the actions.
Whom do you trust?
You trust those that you know truly care about you. They genuinely care about what you’re doing, sincerely help you to succeed, and actually don’t mind if you get the credit.
You trust those that–you realize–understand and know more than you do but don’t mind bringing you to the same level of understanding as themselves. They do all they can to help you come to get there, and then put you in the limelight to give you the credit for “getting it”.
You trust those that do both of these things fluently, gracefully, humbly…and they do it generously without seeking or demanding any reward or recognition. They do it…”just because”…whether or not you noticed, whether or not you cared…because they still care, anyway.
They also do not demand you that you give them your trust. Trust-able people never have to ask you, “Do you trust me?” They never have to say, “Trust me.” They don’t have to. They just genuinely care about people enough to help them with whatever they need, build them up regardless of any sort of reward, and let those they’ve helped get all the credit and success. They do it with genuine love in their hearts and demeanor. They don’t have to market their “Trust-ability” or try to convince you to trust them. They don’t have to. They already live it.
And because they do, you trust them…and you keep trusting them. They’re your Go-To whenever you need them.
And they are genuinely grateful to you when you truly show your gratitude to them.
If these are the Trust-able people in our life…
Are we Trust-able, too?
(The moment anyone demands Trust from us, requires recognition, seeks praise, markets their trust-ability, and constantly tries to convince you that they are trust-able, that they have an open-door policy, all while “appearing” to care about you and the things you do, then the Speed of Trust is this: Reduced…Questioned…or Gone…Instantly.)
5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
…We can see that the Lord in his great infinite goodness doth bless and prosper those who put their trust in him.
– The LDS Lamplighter